Under The Surface

We are soooooo bombarded on a daily basis with social media with who’s who and what there doing, but mostly showing off what they have than the person inside. I ask myself this question, “Is this who they really are?” Does this person REALLY look like this and do they really take THAT many vacations a year? If so, whats the motive? What do these people do to live the life of a celebrity yet not be one. And why on earth would anyone want to broadcast how much $$$ there making? Seriously why? That to me is like when someone miraculously hits the lottery and tells the world they are beyond rich, which just means they have f-you money and all the relatives they didn’t know they had are now knocking.

I’m not hating on those who are more fortunate than I, I’m just curious to know there “Why?” I’m also the kind of soul that finds myself searching for what truth lies beneath the surface. I’m interested in people. I like building relationships from the “core” and not from the surface. Social media can be dangerous but it can very well be a blessing to many. Especially those who desperately feel alone and need a “like” to lift them up. Sometimes that can make a huge difference in someones day! That’s awesome because I do like those likes! Comments are special too 🙂

I understand being a little weary of letting it all out there, the real you, not just the “show” you. I think it’s important to remember that what we see is not always what “is.” What we communicate online, as we all know from catfish, is not always the real deal. Lies are way to easy to make than “real” friends on social media. Now I’m NOT saying that it’s impossible to make a real friend from Instagram, Facebook, twitter. What I am saying is IF your anything like me, real friends are the ones that you meet out. Like in real life, in person. You know, when you actually communicate with your voice and not your fingers on a phone or laptop. I like those kinds of people who take time to meet up  and have a real authentic conversation in person. That beats a “like” on social media any day.

AGAIN, I’m not knocking social media, I have instagram and facebook like most of the world (honestly its not easy for me). I just realize as I age I crave more under the surface, authentic, relationships. That’s all I’m saying.

By the way, If your on Instagram look me up (cassandrapavolic), I promise I keep it real!

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” C. G. Jung

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.” ― Anthon St. Maarten
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Live, love, honor and laugh out loud! Prioritize you.

About Cassandra Pavolic

As a retired performer for 25 years transitioning careers has been difficult. I truly enjoyed my career as an aerialist performer. I was fortunate enough to see the world, traveled many places and met people from all cultures. I learned a tremendous amount about life and people during my years traveling than I would in a school setting. The one thing I took away from being on the road is that no matter what ethnic background you are, we are all so similar. A smile is a smile in every language (happiness or contentment). Expressions of all emotions have the same meaning around the world. For this reason we are similar, and I somehow find that comforting. I'm now 50! It's hard to believe I'm fifty already! I reflect on my accomplishments as well as my failures up to date. Both are irrelevant to what I value most. I value people and relationships. I value my deity, it is the number one thing that keeps me stable. Being true to myself is a portion of my "food" in regards to my decision making. When I steer away from being my true self I am disappointed. Exercise, taking walks, and being still are another source of "food" in my life. I like to be still, listen and observe all things. I have been this type of person since a young child. Perhaps one of the reasons why I take an interest in Personality Psychology and my recent studies human behavior. I hold an Associates degree in Music/Theater/Dance from Dean College in MA. I quickly realized I wanted to perform, therefore my journey began immediately after graduating from Dean. I have been a Licensed Massage Therapist, as well as a Certified Personal Trainer. I am curious, I am persistent and I am passionate. I'm on a mission to be a better person, to help those who want to help themselves, and to share my thoughts, opinions, experiences to anyone who gives a damn. All in hoping that what I have to offer will change lives as you learn to keep your priorities in order. And so I started prioritize you.
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