CONFIDENCE—A DEAL BREAKER!

Do you find yourself staying in your comfort zone just to avoid taking risks for fear of failure? Do you have a hard time excepting compliments? Those simple questions are just two of many that I answered yes to. I stopped dead in my tracks with this thought, “OMG, I lack confidence”. This is my wake up call, my reality check, and it’s time I do something about it. Perhaps transitioning has lowered my self-esteem, or maybe its been happening for years. The trials that I had painfully gone through have put me in such  survival mode that I had no idea anxiety was chipping away my self confidence. A gradual death to my hopes and dreams leave me to face the truth, accept what was and what is as of present. Can I do something about my “lack of self confidence”? The answer is yes but with A LOT of work. This epiphany that suddenly jumped out at me and into my psyche, was something I have been struggling with for years all the while not acknowledge this issue. It will take constant persistence and hard work to recognize when I am slipping back into my “old self”. I must continue to pay attention to how I talk and how I do things. My absolute desire is to possess the actions and charisma of people with confidence (not arrogance). Who would want advice from someone who lacks confidence?

I think women have the hardest time with this characteristic especially when referring to body image. I would LOVE the confidence of a plus size model! Than again, How do I know she herself doesn’t struggle with self confidence? Just because she is on a print ad doesn’t mean she is confident. And the story goes on…….

Your confidence can show in many ways! How you dress, how you talk, your body language are all hints on how you feel about yourself. When it comes to business, confidence is a deal breaker. It can cost you your job. Confidence determines your success! I can’t help but to think of someone as I write this message, whom will remain nameless, that shines with confidence no  matter what he does. When he speaks, he does so with confidence. Almost to the point of questioning, “Is this person arrogant or just extremely confident”? The answer is, confident without a doubt.  Because I have little to no confidence in myself  I couldn’t recognize the difference! That’s pretty sad for me.

It shouldn’t matter how you look, what size you are or what you endured in the past. Break the chains of fear and anxiety (or whatever is the cause of your low self-esteem), and get motivated to press forward. Be willing to go the extra step to pursue a better, happier you. Take the risk! Accept your mistakes and admit them too (with confidence)! Keep your chin up, stay positive (even if it’s a bad day) and keep you a priority!

About Cassandra Pavolic

As a retired performer for 25 years transitioning careers has been difficult. I truly enjoyed my career as an aerialist performer. I was fortunate enough to see the world, traveled many places and met people from all cultures. I learned a tremendous amount about life and people during my years traveling than I would in a school setting. The one thing I took away from being on the road is that no matter what ethnic background you are, we are all so similar. A smile is a smile in every language (happiness or contentment). Expressions of all emotions have the same meaning around the world. For this reason we are similar, and I somehow find that comforting. I'm now 50! It's hard to believe I'm fifty already! I reflect on my accomplishments as well as my failures up to date. Both are irrelevant to what I value most. I value people and relationships. I value my deity, it is the number one thing that keeps me stable. Being true to myself is a portion of my "food" in regards to my decision making. When I steer away from being my true self I am disappointed. Exercise, taking walks, and being still are another source of "food" in my life. I like to be still, listen and observe all things. I have been this type of person since a young child. Perhaps one of the reasons why I take an interest in Personality Psychology and my recent studies human behavior. I hold an Associates degree in Music/Theater/Dance from Dean College in MA. I quickly realized I wanted to perform, therefore my journey began immediately after graduating from Dean. I have been a Licensed Massage Therapist, as well as a Certified Personal Trainer. I am curious, I am persistent and I am passionate. I'm on a mission to be a better person, to help those who want to help themselves, and to share my thoughts, opinions, experiences to anyone who gives a damn. All in hoping that what I have to offer will change lives as you learn to keep your priorities in order. And so I started prioritize you.
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