It’s your “tone”

What about your “tone” makes a person feel as though you’re disrespectful,spiteful,resentful,happy,pleasant,or angry? Teenagers have a sort of tone in there voice when they think they know it all, or don’t want to be told what to do by an authority figure. That “tone” in a teenagers voice is spoiled rotten and is in need of a reality check. What happened to the days where kids respected their elders?  Remember when “please and thank you” stayed with you throughout life, manners were taught at home as soon as a child learned to speak or before! Where are the parents of those children? Oh, that’s right………!!! Both parent’s are working because one income is no longer enough to feed the family. Maybe it’s because the desire for bigger and better out ways the importance of raising our children? Perhaps the rise on single parenting allows the environment, TV, and school to teach children right and wrong. Maybe having a nanny is an option to help raise children with respect and integrity. Unfortunately, most Americans really don’t have that option. Actually, I should say most middle, low income Americans don’t have that option. So now what? Sometimes I look at the different classes of America and I visualize this; one side I see the walking dead which are the ones who can barely get by and children are raising themselves. The other side, extreme wealth and highly educated children that may or may not value, integrity, respect and honesty. Then you have those parents who really are trying to be there for their children. They are the ones who are home before and after school. They sacrifice a comfortable income just to be there for there family, yet still struggle with disrespectful, ungrateful children with a major attitude problem. Could it be that it’s just what they go through as teenagers? Feeling there roots as they say or pushing the limit to see what they can get away with? This could be partially true and on the other hand, it could be the way the world is going (TV shows, movies, news). Where is it going? No place good in my opinion. Our children are our future and if they can get away with treating authority figures disrespectfully without consequences then we are heading down hill fast. Was it so bad to honor God in school? Did this routine disrespect anyone really? Is it not OK to have a “faith” openly? If not, why? Who are the people of faith offending? Is it OK to be an atheist and share the opinions of one? Are the atheist offensive to those faith based? Does any of this matter? It should not, but one can argue that it absolutely does. What do you think? Does it matter if a child is raised in a faith based family with the morals and values that come with a family of faith? Will it make a difference on how that child treats others, especially adults? Will it cause them pause before they speak in a “tone” that’s disrespectful in any way? What about the atheist family and there upbringing? Will the parenting of an atheist differ in raising a child who is faith based? That age old saying,, “It takes a village to raise a child” doesn’t exist anymore. Why? Because the village is divided or nonexistent. This is sad but true. Attitude with a ‘tone” in an adult is pure stress, anger, and simply fed up. However, I do know a few adults who have “adult temper tantrums”. That’s a whole new topic! In closing, it’s getting harder and harder to raise respectful children to grow into respectful “adults” with integrity and good work ethics!

About Cassandra Pavolic

As a retired performer for 25 years transitioning careers has been difficult. I truly enjoyed my career as an aerialist performer. I was fortunate enough to see the world, traveled many places and met people from all cultures. I learned a tremendous amount about life and people during my years traveling than I would in a school setting. The one thing I took away from being on the road is that no matter what ethnic background you are, we are all so similar. A smile is a smile in every language (happiness or contentment). Expressions of all emotions have the same meaning around the world. For this reason we are similar, and I somehow find that comforting. I'm now 50! It's hard to believe I'm fifty already! I reflect on my accomplishments as well as my failures up to date. Both are irrelevant to what I value most. I value people and relationships. I value my deity, it is the number one thing that keeps me stable. Being true to myself is a portion of my "food" in regards to my decision making. When I steer away from being my true self I am disappointed. Exercise, taking walks, and being still are another source of "food" in my life. I like to be still, listen and observe all things. I have been this type of person since a young child. Perhaps one of the reasons why I take an interest in Personality Psychology and my recent studies human behavior. I hold an Associates degree in Music/Theater/Dance from Dean College in MA. I quickly realized I wanted to perform, therefore my journey began immediately after graduating from Dean. I have been a Licensed Massage Therapist, as well as a Certified Personal Trainer. I am curious, I am persistent and I am passionate. I'm on a mission to be a better person, to help those who want to help themselves, and to share my thoughts, opinions, experiences to anyone who gives a damn. All in hoping that what I have to offer will change lives as you learn to keep your priorities in order. And so I started prioritize you.
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