Today’s expectations for the Holidays…… children and adults

Is it just me or has time changed that much to where “giving” from the heart seems no longer good enough in the eyes of our society? Our children expect the best of the best under the Christmas tree and if our family members, spouses, friends do not receive what they were “expecting” then  suddenly the  joys and happiness of holiday giving/receiving are filled with some sort of resentment.  Those who have a large annual income may have it worse but the rest, those of medium or low income, have it just as bad in my opinion. It’s no wonder people are a bit moody this time of year. They are pressured to ” step it up” in every way it seems during the holidays. Holiday parties, baking, exchanging gifts are meant to be a happy time of year spent with loved ones. However, Holiday today for most people that are hard working individuals, parent or not, this time of year represents:  money, money, and more money spent on someone  (anyone), who will most likely feel let down both for the receiver and the giver. It doesn’t even matter what you give anymore, the spirit of giving and receiving seems to have disappeared in our society. Thank God for our volunteers, for those who do understand the love of giving and receiving. Should it really matter where you come from to feel appreciated in relation to giving or receiving from whoever?  I believe it truly gets down to the heart of the matter. Have we become so arrogant or chalice to just go through the motions without having a deep feeling of joy that comes with giving and receiving? Did we as a society forget how to be “humble” and truly grateful for all things? The expectations that people have of others didn’t happen over night, nothing ever does! This was a gradual, slow process without a doubt in my mind. We are a product of our environment but it doesn’t have to be permanent. We don’t have to conform to what society says. Live as though you lived in the error where people actually appreciated an “orange” as a gift. No matter what you receive or give this holiday, give and receive with a grateful heart. Let your soul shine through with happiness that there will be no doubt to anyone that you’re heart is full of love. Now that’s prioritizing you!

About Cassandra Pavolic

As a retired performer for 25 years transitioning careers has been difficult. I truly enjoyed my career as an aerialist performer. I was fortunate enough to see the world, traveled many places and met people from all cultures. I learned a tremendous amount about life and people during my years traveling than I would in a school setting. The one thing I took away from being on the road is that no matter what ethnic background you are, we are all so similar. A smile is a smile in every language (happiness or contentment). Expressions of all emotions have the same meaning around the world. For this reason we are similar, and I somehow find that comforting. I'm now 50! It's hard to believe I'm fifty already! I reflect on my accomplishments as well as my failures up to date. Both are irrelevant to what I value most. I value people and relationships. I value my deity, it is the number one thing that keeps me stable. Being true to myself is a portion of my "food" in regards to my decision making. When I steer away from being my true self I am disappointed. Exercise, taking walks, and being still are another source of "food" in my life. I like to be still, listen and observe all things. I have been this type of person since a young child. Perhaps one of the reasons why I take an interest in Personality Psychology and my recent studies human behavior. I hold an Associates degree in Music/Theater/Dance from Dean College in MA. I quickly realized I wanted to perform, therefore my journey began immediately after graduating from Dean. I have been a Licensed Massage Therapist, as well as a Certified Personal Trainer. I am curious, I am persistent and I am passionate. I'm on a mission to be a better person, to help those who want to help themselves, and to share my thoughts, opinions, experiences to anyone who gives a damn. All in hoping that what I have to offer will change lives as you learn to keep your priorities in order. And so I started prioritize you.
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