Do You Know This Person?

A person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual. In other words…. to feel deeply. The capacity to place oneself in anothers position. Usually considered Highly Sensitive, or often told they are to sensitive and need to “toughen up.” They absorb other peoples emotions and are highly attunes to anothers moods, good and bad. They have a love of nature and quit environments. They desire to help other people. They have a need for alone time. They are sensitive to sound,light, smell, and aversion to large groups. It usually takes Highly Sensitive people longer to calm down after a busy day. They are typically introverts but not all are. It’s not unusual that they gravitate to the arts and tend to be very creative. These people  can be Empaths and Highly Sensitive People. In all, HSP’s and Empaths are fairly simple human beings (well sort of). They are a rarity in today’s world and aren’t valued as they should be. Both empaths and HSP’s have a difficult time dealing with emotions, and having a highly sensitive nature does not make them a saint.

Do you know this person? I do!

Now……… Do you know THIS PERSON?

A person who has to be in control of everything and everyone around them. This person does NOT value other peoples feelings or opinions. They view kindness as a weakness, and sympathy as a waste of time. They think the rules don’t apply to them, because they KNOW better. They don’t really care about other people unless they can do something for them ( example: Whats in it for me?). They always have to have the upper hand in a relationship. They are condescending and critical of everyone around them. They lie about everything to manipulate there circumstances. They believe they can do NO wrong. They hold grudges and like to get revenge. They feel empty inside and seek other peoples energy to sustain them. They are very judgemental of others. They look for leverage on people, so they can use it to get ahead, exploit them for there own gain. They don’t really believe in anything. They wear a mask to mirror the feelings and characteristics of other people around them. But then discard that mask and the person they wore it for, whenever they find someone better. They bully people and make fun of others to amuse themselves. They are passive-aggressive. They care more about there reputation and like controlling the narrative. They would lie to protect themselves. They “gaslight” and twist things in conversation just to throw the other off track to benefit themselves. They CONSTANTLY blame the other person for things (Just one example: if they”re feeling bad, it’s the other persons fault). They drain YOU. They are charming, and charismatic when out in groups or around others. They know how to “sell” themselves but behind closed doors and the night ended…… the personality changed. And they ALWAYS bring up the past when in a relationship.

Now I ask you….. Do you know THIS PERSON I just described above?


But do you know the personality of that person I described? Yes, I’m sure you do. A NARC. Now there are different types of NARCS, and one in particular that is REALLY dangerous is the “covert NARC.” I know this person very well…… sadly.

Why do Empaths and HSP’s attract NARCs and vice-versa? Hmmmmm? I know!

Emapths are motivated by an intrinsic need to help and heal humanity. Narcissist are motivated by their own self-interest and ego-driven desires. What they have in common is their high emotional intelligence. NARCS are high in intellect and are cognitively  intelligent. They recognize and perceive how another person thinks. Empaths are high in emotional or effective empathy, they emotionally respond to how another  person thinks and feels. Empaths and NARCS are toxically attracted because they mirror each others shadow sides. They unconsciously project their deepest fears onto another. Emapths struggle with fear of rejection, abandonment and loss, while narcissist struggle with fears of emotional engulfment, and vulnerability.

Immature empaths enter these relationships because they do not yet understand how to fully use their gift of empathy. They believe that loving others is the solution, without cultivating any self-love themselves. They lack boundaries, and unconsciously look upon the narcissist to set these boundaries for them. Narcissists live out the intensity of their deep feelings through empaths. Empaths must learn to become emotionally independent by objectively detaching themselves from their emotions before they can have healthy relationships.

Narcissists are not born but are made out of difficult circumstances, such that they loose touch with their true nature, condemning their own empathy as a weak inconvenience, which must be controlled. They must learn to become emotionally responsible by allowing themselves to feel their emotions, before they can have healthy relationships.

The key to healing is to move into a place of self-awareness and self-management, rather than blaming each other. Mindfulness and acceptance of one’s own dark side, is what will transmute these negative emotions into positive ones.

My personal thoughts… I believe both personalities are “hurting” and insecure somewhere, somehow and for some damn reason….. But we all want to be loved, respected, appreciated and NEVER be taken advantage of. Life is a journey. I’m still a working progress and I thank God that he hasn’t given up on me. I am truly blessed.

** References: Nikita Mor, Thought Catalog; Business Insider, Judith Orloff MD, Diary Of Psychology Today. **

“As you remove toxic people from your life, you free up space and emotional energy for positive, healthy relationships.” John Mark Green.

“A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down. It inspires you to be better.” Diary of Psychology.

Live, love, honor and laugh out loud! Prioritize you!


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Location, Location, Location!

I have heard this on numerous occasions especially when looking for a piece of Real Estate. This rings true with investments, as well as a place where you’ll hang your hat for the rest of your life. I’m at that point now. The rest of my life, and where I want to die. Sounds dramatic but it’s real, and it’s inevitable. It’s like getting your will done. No one likes to do it but it should be done because……. God only knows when our time is up! Just saying, some things need to take priority especially when your fifty. HA!

So, I love, love, love Nashville, Tennessee, particularly Franklin, TN. I’m not sure why exactly. I  have always like the vibe in Franklin. I took my kids there 11 years ago and loved it. Still love it as I visited this past summer. However, It also gets cold there. Maybe not AS COLD as where I’m from, but still pretty cold. Seriously, cold is cold I don’t care where it is. If the temp is below 55 degrees it’s bloody cold to me (No I’m not English, I just didn’t want to drop the “f” word). So this means, I need to either make A LOT of money so I can go wherever I want for the winter months or I head back West. I have a plan I’ll keep to myself for now 🙂

So as I make plans, this means I move ONCE AGAIN! For crying out loud this has to be my last move. It gets harder as we age. LOL

It’s not an easy decision as I also enjoy the seasons the East Coast offers but most important, my only son is not planning on moving any time soon…. So that’s a downer. My daughter on the West Coast and my son on the East Coast, I’m in bit of a conundrum.

Good news is I can pretty much go anywhere because it’s not like I have to be here for a job. My job is pretty much home based. I do get out to teach Stretch & Core at a few locations which I love! The people who come to my class are awesome and if or when I move, they will be missed 😦

So, I have decisions to make and sooner than later!

“A good decision is based on knowledge and not on numbers.” Plato

”When you need to make a hard decision flip a coin. Why?  Because when that coin is in the air you suddenly know what your hoping for.”

Live, Love, Honor and Laugh Out Loud! Prioritize You



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Belief, Hope,Love & Lack of.

I thought I would touch base on the state of our union and as usual, just my simple thoughts.

It seems as though the majority of people on this earth are more discouraged than ever. Turn on the news and it’s almost never good. Between mass shootings, greed and political craziness (on both parties), have left most of us feeling hopeless, and wondering if there is a God. It does make me wonder, “Whats going on?” Just when I think nothing more can surprise me, I am surprised.

Social media has influenced our daily lives on some level. Good and bad. The disconnect between actual face to face communication has been replaced with google, Instagram, Facebook, dating sites and the list goes on. The drive to work till the sun goes down replaces family and relationships. Sooner than later most ask, “What family? What relationship?” Some have no choice… but do they? One just has to “choose” to give up something (sacrifice) for a life of fulfillment. Most end up finding that money is not always the answer and usually you loose something along the way. Infidelity is on the rise, lack of respect for humanity is the norm, it’s no wonder we are more disconnected than ever before. I believe if something is important to you, you will make that something a priority, no matter what it is or WHO it is!  If it’s not a priority, it’s not important. That simple.

People of all ages are dealing with depression and anxiety. Why do you think that is? Is it the current events? The addiction to social media? Reality shows that don’t seem to much like “reality?”

I ask, where is the hope? What do you believe? Do “YOU” know what love is?

I “think” and this is just me but I cant stop wondering if it’s just a “lack of” hope, faith, & love in the absence of human connection. When was the last time you got a hug, gave a hug, or made time to connect with another soul face to face? There are plenty of cyber hugs being sent out but come on….. really? Clearly those do nothing to feed our soul. We are desperate to connect and feel genuine love. When was the last time you felt that? When was the last time you gave it?

Some scream for attention in many ways and the internet is just one of them. What is it? Why can’t we slow down to notice a child in despair, or a partner in need of more than just financial security but respect, words of encouragement and quality time? So many are to deep in there own personal chaos they don’t even notice their in the depths of hell, emotionally, physically and mentally. And of course, one human soul can have a great affect on another. Personally, I find that everyone suffers.

So I guess this is yet another message of prioritizing you. For your health, mental, physical and emotional. We can’t expect someone else to do it for us. We are responsible for our own happiness. Happy mind, happy body, happy soul, happy everybody. Happy happy happy!

Now go out and make someones day! Give a hug, spend a little time with someone you care about and   D E C O M P R E S S!!

“A mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work if it isn’t open.” Frank Zappa

“Our lives are shaped by those who love us and those who refuse to love us.” John Powell

Live, Love, Honor and laugh out loud! Prioritize you.



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Persistence & Patience

This afternoon I was heading out for a walk, as I like to do as much as possible…… walking out in fresh air gets my creative brain working! As I enjoy this, what is suppose to be winter at 60 degrees (believe me I’m not complaining!), I began to think of my desire for immediate results. I put in the hard work, I get out of my comfort zone and take risks, I work towards my goals daily, I make a plan and am consistent, disciplined, and PERSISTENT, yet It hit me that I lack patience. This is the missing link in my daily life thoughts.  I must practice PATIENCE with all of the above. I began to realize also that because I lacked the patience it takes to reach that goal, negative thoughts came trickling in. We all tend to get a little discouraged when we hit a road block or we may even feel a little beat up by our consistent hard work and no immediate results. But than I remembered that Nothing good ever happens overnight. There is no such thing as overnight success. I must keep on keeping on, till I get to where I want to be. Staying persistent is important but being patient is just as important. Patience is worth practicing!

“Have patience with all things, but first of all with yourself.” St Francis De  Sales

“Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet.” Aristotle

“Patience is not the ability to wait. Waiting is a fact of life. Patience is the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” Joyce Meyers

Live, Love, Honor, and Laugh Out Loud! Prioritize You.

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Who I Want To Be

I’m a women who has made many mistakes, took many risks, failed a lot, lived in the moment, hardly thought of my future, found success when I gave it just one more try, been to hell and back at least a dozen times, loves to laugh and find joy in the simple things, finds it necessary for “alone” time. Music moves me, the theater inspires me and dance awakens me.

Who I want to be? In this next chapter of my life…. if I had another fifty years…. I would be me all over again only a better version of me. I would be more accepting of my mistakes, failures, insecurities. I would listen more to my inner self, my intuition. I would care less what people think who care nothing about me. I would continue to pursue my goals, dreams, and face my obstacles with courage. I won’t allow defeat crush my spirit but fuel me. I will continue to strive to be better, do better, give more, be present, and connect. Most importantly, I will never ever try to be someone I’m not just to fit in.  EVER.

“I Have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” balanced achievement

“It wasn’t so much what did I want to do, It was who I want to be.” balanced achievement

Live, Love, honor and laugh out loud! Prioritize you.


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Hello! I have no real excuse except for…… well, an excuse of course. I’m trying out new things as I quickly approach the big 5ohhhhhhhhhhhh! Yup it’s just around the corner and by around the corner I mean next week. LOL

So I created a list of what I must do while I’m in my fifties, and preferably by my fifty fifth birthday. It’s what I like to refer to as my “Bucket List.” I must say this list is personal, but I will share as I check them off. Ok I’ll share one……

So, I’m challenging myself to get out of my comfort zone which is pretty scary! Sooooooo being the introvert that I am makes public speaking very difficult. YIKES! Yes, Public speaking is on my list. Stay tuned my friends!! It will happen. I’ll announce the other goals that made my bucket list in the near future.

During my six month hiatus, I made some necessary changes and I moved. Moving is such a pain in the  a s s….. just saying, at my age it sucks. However, I love my new little humble hut and I adore where I live. Although, I can do without the high rent and the limited parking situation, this cute little village is convenient and adorable. It’s true what they say, LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION! With that said, I am forced to broaden my horizons and work work work. I still teach my fitness classes, but only now I’m at several locations. I also started a two new businesses that I am so excited about!!! I will talk more about those on my next posting. I’m putting in a lot of time on my projects yet still find it necessary to “prioritize” what’s important to me…. My faith, friends, family, exercise, making connections and good food! 🙂

“Starting today I need to forget what’s gone, appreciate what still remains and look forward to what’s coming next.” author unknown

“Be willing to be a beginner every single morning.” Meister Eckhart

Live, Love, Honor and Laugh out loud! Prioritize you.

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New beginnings & letting go

Hello There! I started a new job! YAY!

I’m continuing my passion for health & wellness and am now employed at a major elite athletic club. I am stepping out of my comfort zone in regards to teaching in a group fitness setting. I have always been a one on one type of trainer but this is new, challenging and inspiring. I have already met some wonderful people. In doing this, I realize that my employment here will open up opportunity for bigger and better things to come.

Sometimes in starting something new it can also lead to letting go of something…… this can be anything. One door opens, another door closes. I very recently had an awakening that lead me to believe that some things just aren’t meant to be forever. Some people have a hard time letting go, especially emotionally. Life sometimes isn’t fair but we make the best with present circumstances. We are responsible for our decisions, our actions, and the words that come out of our mouth reap consequences….. good or bad. With that said, I’m letting go of stuff, things, and people that do not find value in me, appreciate me or love me for me. All toxic relationships/friendships that I have been involved with past and present have never served me well. Do they ever? Boundaries are set and I’m letting go. A new beginning has a whole “new” meaning now.

“Where you movin?” I said, “Onto better things”

“Dear Lord, I thank you for the Grace of being alive this morning; I thank you for the sleep that has refreshed me; I thank you for the chance to MAKE A NEW BEGINNING.”

“Every story has an end but in life every end is a new beginning.”

“Today I close the door to the past, open the door to the future, take a deep breath, step on through and start a new chapter in my life.”

“A good man will recognize a good women without her having to beg him to do so.”

Live, love, honor and laugh out loud! Prioritize you.



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